However, if you ask most ladies in the gym how their weight loss goals are going they will probably tell you not too well. I know from working in a gym that it's only the minority who are seeing the results they want, which was the reason they signed up. Most people will cancel their membership after a few months having not seen the results they were after (you've probably been there at some stage in your life?)
Why is this then, if we live in such a fantastic age full of information and opportunity? I believe we are simply over-informed, and under-educated on these matters. Over the last 50-60 years women were bombarded with images of how the perfect woman should look and behave, and now with the advent of the internet it's got even worse!
We are simply over-informed, and under-educated
Facebook has become the shop window for everyone's best side, only posting the best of 20 selfies that you've taken.
Instagram is the worst for this. In the past few years now, whenever I ask a lady who she aspires to look like it's almost always someone they've followed on Instagram.
All of these platforms will tend to come with their own brand of BS, like "eat cereal twice a day and look like this," or my personal pet hate are the number of big bummed women I see on Instagram showing how they built their impressive behind with kneeling glute extensions and crazy cable exercises.
it comes with little to know knowledge of training or nutrition, and I think this just adds to the confusion in the industry
One thing I am saying is that anyone who has a physique like that works hard at it, but is very lucky too. For the majority of ladies, especially those that I see on a regular basis, are normal ladies, who work sitting down, who have busy lives and who don't possess the genetic potential to look like the girls we see on magazines and Instagram.
This is the biggest problem for weight loss for ladies right now. Too many people giving information (do this exercise, eat like this if you want to look like me) and not enough people who want to learn the truth about intelligent training, good healthy nutrition and learning to love yourself and present the best version of yourself.
Learn to move properly
If you're looking to start out in the gym, you shouldn't be heading over to the cable machine and start performing glute extensions thinking you're going to look like one of theses models in 6 weeks.
You should be making sure your body is biomechanically sound to handle these exercises and get the most out of them. Performing basic movement patterns like the squat, the hinge (deadlift) and lunge where you can incorporate all muscles moving together correctly. These basic movement patterns (called compound exercises) are going to burn much more fat too, by utilising more muscle.
After you've mastered these basic movements, which could take weeks, then you can move on to concentrated isolation work.
Don't head into an abs class and come out the otherside of it with a sore neck and a sore lower back. Head over to a trainer and find out why you aren't able to use your abs properly, and what exercises are appropriate for you at this point in time. Things like pallof presses, proper plank technique and even pelvic floor work are the first ab exercises I do with new clients to teach them how to integrate all of the core muscles.
Even tonight, at my Bodypump class one lady complained how she couldn't perform one of our abs exercises. After a brief chat at the end I realised that I'd already sent her a 'get your abs working again' programme which she hadn't done, because she wants to skip ahead to the 'more effective' exercises.
Understand, it's not a race. You have your whole life to work on becoming your best self.
No one wants to hear that.
People want to hear that they should be eating no carbs after 6, or no fat, or green tea to stimulate fat loss or the classic 6 boring, small meals a day. Yes, these things can work, and for certain people at certain times there will have there benefit but the vast majority of us need to subscribe to the idea of 'eating sensibly.'
After studying nutrition at a biomolecular level at university, I was so upset to hear that the optimum diet was what deep down everyone knows is right. Fruits, veg and moderation. We all want to believe there's a magic bullet solution, but it's not there.
Look for role models who promote a healthy outlook on life
As opposed to those models are pages which are vanity based. More often than not they will have a far more inspirational story, more humour and easier to relate to.
Here are a few ladies I think are doing a great job spreading the message of happiness:
- Faye Jordan (cancer survivor)
- Gemma Magnusson (former World's Strongest Woman)
- Fat to Fit Darling (Incredible transformation)
Keep clear of the 'gurus'
Most of the time they just want to sell you stuff, praying on the vulnerable and those with lowered self-esteem. Stick to the geeks who put education at the fore-front of their businesses. These guys here know their stuff:
- Richard Sennewald (campaigner against industry BS)
- Brett Contreras (God of everything Glutey [bums])
There are loads more out there, these are just a few that came to my head straight away.
At the end of the day, I know it's hard to ignore what I call 'shiny things,' (great looking role models, drastic diet and supplement programmes, and insane workouts) but we need to realise that looking and feeling great starts with loving yourself and taking time and care over what you do.
"If you can't love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else" RuPaul
I hope this post has helped you in your quest to be the best version of you. I know for me I am always striving for progress and not perfection.
I think sometimes we get bogged down in reaching for something that might not be attainable, like wanting the body that someone else has and all this does is lower our own self-esteem.
You can read my story on the 'About' section of my website, and I'd love for you to share yours in the comments below. Or maybe you disagree with me, then I'd love to hear your thoughts too?
If you've read this post and think you still need help becoming the best version of you, then why not get in touch with me? I offer one to one coaching and groups sessions which you can read about and book here, or maybe you'd like to try something by yourself, then just send me and email, and I'll send you my ebook.
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